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He has a few different partners and has had a lot of difficulty saying he is doing so because it goes against everything he wants in the moment. I want to talk about honesty and dishonesty and how it comes into play in relationships. This is about emotional honesty — the habits and ways of being that seem small, but actually create who you are and how you form bonds with others.
Because the simple act of being honest can change your life in awesome earth-shattering ways. Because that practice has amazing benefits in your life. Without further ado — three parts: what why and how! Emotional Honesty — with yourself and with others. Meaning, authenticity in your way of being.
When it comes to relationships — honesty is a of wholeness, confidence and self-love. I think of honesty as a synonym for trust and intimacy. A lack of honesty can taint your relationship just as powerfully. Everything in life down to a character choice you make as you live now, today in your present moment.Fortune Cookies in English - Stories for Teenagers - English Fairy Tales
Your values are like the decoder ring for every individual instance you might encounter. Once you practice owning your own truth and values, everything in your life will arrange itself perfectly. The fear evaporates and everything just gets super simple. Once you approach your life with honesty, you will begin to confront things as they arise. Without the make-shift solutions, what happens is your life becomes a purer expression of your truth.
Guided by who you are and what you want: in love and all your relationships. Today, right now. Dishonesty is the system of controlling what scares us. A fear of loss, a fear of betrayal, a fear of being hurt, of being seen, of being controlled and owned. The fears we feel are encoded by the bonds we formed with our parents. I will go through some of the lies we tend to tell during courtship, committed relationships, and marriage.
Why would someone be afraid to be honest? It pertains to men and women, alike. Relationships are built around simultaneous and yet opposite needs to be autonomous and intimate, and therefore this is where all couple-conflicts arise. In a marriage, there are some major changes cause the dynamic to change — here are a few, roughly: the end of the fantasy, which is within the first few years of marriage, the beginning of child-rearing, and the end of child-rearing.
So these are times when a couple might be most vulnerable to affairs because this is when they experience the most stress — change is traumatic because relationships have to organize around them. A person can perceive their role so strongly that they seek out another person to help them validate it. This is when a person seeks out an emotional affair or suddenly falls in love with someone they barely know.
We seek others who can reaffirm our parts. Often with affairs, people are seeking to replace the first stage of a relationship: the fantasy stage. Meet a person, see their ideal, get to know the reality, freak out and break up. The bond evolves between two people, together: you write it as you go, define it as best you can while battling old ghosts of your family relationships.
We all choose people based on our fabric, almost via telepathy: we sense in the other a missing piece of ourselves. When we feel comfortable with our partner, we work out our remaining childhood issues. Listen for what someone is not saying. This is a tool for those of you who are dating. As a habit, listen to what people are NOT saying. Ask yourself: are there statements that you want to hear that this person is not saying?
Are there basic understandings that are not being spelled out? Are you confused but hopeful? Are there terms that you think are implied, but have never been made explicit? We want to hear the answer that we are not hearing, so we blind ourselves to the truth by highlighting what gives us hope. All that habit does is cheat you out of years of time that could be spent getting closer to what you want.
Omission is a way of passively lying. Also, they can rationalize the sin as not their fault. Assume nothing and remain open to all possible outcomes, for better or worse.
The ghost is a metaphor for an ex who still lingers in the mind of your partner that makes you feel threatened. It might be awkward to facilitate, but if you can both commit to trying this, it works! Your partner must sit and listen to you intently and not say a word back. For the rest of the week outside of this one hour, you are not allowed to bring up this issue in any shape or form. This tool is really about starting to be honest with yourself. What is the rule for when you should be honest with someone? This is a tool to help you begin to understand what you feel good about, and what makes you happy.
That tiny, uncomfortable, fearful feeling is a that something in your actions is hurting YOU. Your acting out of alignment with who you really are. When you abuse yourself, your confidence is lowered and you create feelings of depression. I briefly want to say thank you to my latest sponsors! Liz on Patreon! You are awesome and I love you! But I feel very valued and it inspires me to make more content and always give you my best. So thank you so, so much. Back to the blog…. In order to really be the person you aspire to be, you must act according to what you know are your issues.
Meaning — you have to take control of them and build the paths you need, so that you can always act from the right place. I think a lot of the most successful personal growth is about seeing your big bad issue and choosing to build a staircase around it so that you can be kind and loving to others. Honesty is how we own where we are and confront our truth— and it le to understanding what we truly want.
You also grow and change each time you move through a challenge or a loss, and each time you gain a new muscle. Very soon after practicing this brave honesty, you become supremely confident — because you know you can and will survive anything, and you will take care of yourself.
You also let go of what is not in your cards, and everything becomes so simple — the resistance is what makes life hard. Not the truth. You take your need to control your fate, out of the equation and you allow yourself to change and hurt and grow where you need to. I send you my love and I hope that this registered and that it helped somehow. Smile lovely friends!! Here it is on Soundcloud and iTunes. Featured image via Flickr. Home Love Love and honesty: what we hide and why we lie.Say your truths and seek them in others - Elizabeth Lesser
Love and honesty: what we hide and why we lie. Sarah May Bates Updated Apr 18, am. FB Tweet More. To protect someone A fear of abandonment Control what someone else does Control how others perceive us To avoid conflict or punishment. It can also be because a person wants to maintain autonomy — not be fully controlled or known. In doing this, you remove your intimate experience of that bond, and you remove your trust in someone else and their ability to love accept you.
You also put something between the two of you — so you remove some aspect of your own participation in your relationships. It is this effect that keeps you from fully participating in your relationships and enjoying them to the utmost.Seeking honesty and love
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